Happy Birthday Princess

I have found myself married to one of those most amazing women put on this earth. She is truely a proverbs 31 woman..

When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say,
and she always says it kindly.
She keeps an eye on everyone in her household,
and keeps them all busy and productive.
Her children respect and bless her;
her husband joins in with words of praise:
“Many women have done wonderful things,
but you’ve outclassed them all!”
Charm can mislead and beauty soon fades.
The woman to be admired and praised
is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.
Give her everything she deserves!
Festoon her life with praises!

-The Message

She has blessed me in so many ways. Her presence is a treasure highly valued. Everyone wants to be in her presence. Her children each are a bright star in my night sky. They each in their own way have praticing the gifts that were instilled in them many years ago.  Watching her with our grandson has given me the opportunity to see the mothering side of her i never got to see before.

One of the things I had asked for in my wish list for a wife was someone i could come home and “talk shop” with.  Someone who was interested in the the weird stuff that i find exciting.  When we are at church or an event she’s noticing the technical stuff behind the scenes that i thought only i was interested in.  She’s edited all of the McHi band videos, she’s built several websites.  She was even the IT point person for her office in Edinburg.

She always brings out the best in me.  She’s an encourager and supporter.  She stood behind me and helped me decide about this new job.  She never complained or asked me to do something i wouldn’t want to do.   My family loves her, i think she talks more to myparents and sisters more than i do.  I love you Patti.  My prayer for you is that i can make you as happy as you’ve made me.  That i can fill your life with as much joy as you’ve given me and that all our years to come will be even better then they already have been.  

4 years ago today…


Four years ago today I married my best friend.  I stood up in front of my family, friends, co-workers and future family.  I made a promise to do anything for her.  To willingly give her all of my time, efforts, thoughts, talents, trust and prayers.  I want to protect her, care for her, guide her, hold her, comfort her, listen to her, and cry to her and with her. I vowed to share all of my dreams, goals, fears, hopes, and worries.  I promised to be the best for her, to pray for her success and to hope for the fulfillment of all of her endeavors.  I pledged my loyalty and faithfulness to her. I stood up there and promised to cherish her friendship, adore her personality, respect her values and see her for the wonderfull and loving person that she is.  I miss her incredibly when we are apart, no matter what length of time it’s for; and regardless of the distance.  I believe in our relationship and will stand by it through the worst of times; I have faith in our strength as a family together with God and will never ever give up on us.  In front of everyone I promised to love her children as my own.

Those vows are just as much relevant today as they were four years ago.

I know you’ve heard me say these words before
But every time I say I love you the words mean something more

I spoke them as a promise right from the start
I said death would be the only thing that could tear us apart
And now that you are standing on the edge of the unknown
I love you means I’ll be with you wherever you must go

I will take a heart whose nature is to beat for me alone
And fill it up with you – make all your joy and pain my own
No matter how deep a valley you go through

I will go there with you
And I will give myself to love the way Love gave itself for me
And climb with you to mountaintops or swim a raging sea
To the place where one heart is made from two
I will go there with you

I see it in your tears – you wonder where you are
The wind is growing colder and the sky is growing dark
Though it’s something neither of us understands

We can walk through this together if we hold each other’s hand
I said for better or worse I’d be with you
So no matter where you’re going I will go there too

I known sometimes I let you down
But I won’t let you go – we’ll always be together

Trashing the dress

Patti got this idea a while ago of putting her wedding dress to good use one last time. It’s called Trashing The Dress. What good is having the dress you’ve worn once sitting up in your closet for years and year probably never to be worn again. This way, it get’s used again, in a typically fun and creative way. It’s also symbolic of saying that we will not be needing a wedding dress again. She wore it once and that was once and for all. Never needing a wedding dress again. The key to trashing the dress right is getting the right photographer. We’ve been admiring Elizabeth’s photography for a while and decided that she would be the best person for what we want. On Saturday we started off the day early and ended late burning through over 800 exposures. (i think) This ended up being one of my favorites so far. Ellie knows exactly how to capture patti’s natural beauty in it’s most precious form. Patti and i also never really got any wedding photos taken so this session counted for both!

a year ago

It’s amazing to think that a year ago today, i was sleep-deprived, staying up till the cows came home getting things ready for the big event. I think we had the building setup mostly by now, and most of the decorations were in place.

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The evening would be the rehearsal. Right before rehearsal, Sandy and Tom wanted to meet with us so we went to my office and did a talk-thru of how things were going to happen. Up to this point it was all mostly in my head. It was the first time i read my vows outloud. When i heard them of course the came out all wrong. Funny how things look good on paper, but that’s all they look good on. It was the first time i got to hear patti’s vows too. after that it was like, wow.. i can’t be out done. I love her more, and i’m going to prove it. After it was all done, we went to the youth building with everyone waiting, and did a quick walk thru of everything. The Leal’s had memorized some scriptures and recited them that night. Those are actually some of our favorite scriptures, even today.Picture1 087
Continue reading a year ago

This time a year ago

we were getting our marriage license. You would think they would give you a test or something.. like are you capable of getting married and carrying on the species. Some of the parents now a days obviously are not.


4047from san isidro?  not a chance.  it’s wierd to run into people who’ve lived in the city their entire life, and want nothing more than to retire somewhere out in the ranch.  i can see the things they admire about it.  the solitude is amazing.  but that’s about it.  the people out there are so bored that most of them have a past time of finding out what everyone else is doing and letting everyone one else know.  you know the song, “i want to go where everyone knows your name”  yeah, well.. that’s not always all it’s cracked up to be.  I think that’s one of the things that i love the most about living in civilization.  you can walk into a store or something and not have to worry about how you look or what your wearing.. cause no body knows you .. and no one cares.  out there, they make a big deal out of nothing.  sometimes you just feel like saying to them, get a life. 

if anyone from out there is reading this they are probably wondering, what someone must have done.  actually nothing.  i haven’t been out there in a while so i haven’t had to put up with that culture in a while.  I was talking with Juan Ramierez yesterday.  he was out there for the golf tournament  and we got to talk for a while.  He asked if i had been to the ranch and the more i thought of it, i realized that it’s been a while.  I love getting to go see my parents and the rest of my family that’s out there.e  well. i guess there is some family that i could probably be just a fine not seeing, but we don’t go out there to visit them.  They did get invited to the wedding though, and they came too.  and that’s fine.  i mean Patti and I thought about not inviting some of them.. but we weren’t going to stoop down to there level so we invited them.  Didn’t expect them to come.  but what do you know.. some of them came.  oh well.. hopefully they were able to get some of the message from the ceremony.  I got to see Olga Soto last week and she was talking about the ceremony and about the people that showed up.  it was kind of a reminder for me.  i mean even thought it was 5 months ago, it seams like it’s been longer.  So i got back on the photo gallery and added more pictures from the wedding.  still have to tag them and fix them up a bit… but i’ll get that done later tonight.

what was the point of all that.. i forget. 

Congrats to Aaron and Steph

I totally forgot about the clog.  So the feed is back on the widgets of this site.  I should probably add it to my rss reader to.  You should too you know.  Here’s the feed.  It’s must more interesting than this one.  Anyway.. here are some of the entries from the newly wedded couple.  It’s neat looking back at the photos.  Seams like it was just last week.  It was a fun wedding.  Very laid back.  The kind you can go to and enjoy being at.  Sometimes it’s fun to play dress up.  other times.. it’s fun to just show up.



I wish you guys the best.  I know your going to enjoy married life.  People ask me, “so how do you like being married” my usual responce is “I should have done this a long time ago”  It’s wierd not being bymyself.  Not that i was really ever by myself.  I lived with my sister then in with Rob at dove, then to the house with rob and chris, then i moved back to dove for a short time alone, then jonny moved in, then to las palmas by myself but usually had company, then to the trailer with gaberial and then manuel, then guy, then to my house.  so.. ok.. maybe i never really was actually alone- but you know what i mean. 


ok guys, sorry i’m not on my laptop and this thing doesn’t have livewritter so your just going to have to put up with my horrible spelling

this past week we spent sunday through yesterday transforming the youth building from what you know it as you know it to a totally new place…  (insert room pic before/after)<wpg2id>4444</wpg2id>
ok.. backing up.. saturday was the wedding, and the only way i was able to keep myself calm was to just look at it as any other program patti and i have thrown together.  Remember the magnatude of “words from the cross?” all the video prep work, lighting design, script writting.. ok.. well take that and the publicity of “Carmen” and that’s close to what this program ended up being.  only it wasn’t just another program.  I think that’s what has finally hit me the most today is that wasn’t just a program i was producing… it was my wedding.  ok.. i have to say that again, MY WEDDING. 

 i was to excited and knew there was a lot todo.  I began moving the video control room over to the equiptment room in the youth building.  Just kind of on my own.. at my own pace.  starting making a mental check list of what i need to get done and how to get it done.  Later that night, Patti and i were talking and since we threw the Guidebook to Wedding out the window, we decided it would be better if we controled the thing together.  Rather than have her in the green room and me in the control room. 

so the next day i went and moved the control and combined it in the green room.  that way we could use the VIP entrance to go in and out and still have a hand on everything going on.  Brougt over the Panasonic composite switcher over.  Brought the betacam deck and dvd recorder.  all the combo cables and the intelegent lighting was already in place.

patti and i pretty much used the rest of this day as we had been most evenings for the past two weeks to work on finalizing the videos.  They were all stuck in our heads and on film, just needed to get them in the can.  There were several that we put together.
 Patti’s Intro: who she is and her life in 7 minutes
 John’s Intro: who I am, and my life in about 10.  Not quite as entertaining as hers
 Together: This was the past ten years of us knowing eachother.  how we met, what we’ve done and why we do it.  This was almost 30 minutes but not borning as i would normaly think for a video of this size.
 we ended up scrubbing two videos inbetween here, but it was for the best.  it would have shifed the reason we were doing this whole thing.  not for us but for the message.
 The last Painting:  this one can’t really be described, you just have to see it.
 Todds and Kellers:  they sent video from NY and we got to edit and put it together to let them be a part of the ceremony.  It was not the same as if they were with us, but it was still special.  *i miss them*
 Slate: this was actually one of the hardest to do but one of the simplest to watch… it was a running loop of the wedding logo rerendered in alpha-3d for the sole purpose of cutaways and leadins.  i was even going to add it to the CG’s but ended up scrubbing the entire CG project. 

Came by the church and got to start working on the youth building.  Last time i was in there.. the audio was really bad.  not any fault of there own, but i just had neglected my responbility to that venue for too long.  so i brought in the DBX DriveRack loaded it in place of the Graphic eq’s and crossovers.  Removed the house speakers, drilled into the walls and moved both clusters to the sides.  got them out from the middle.  also moved the amp rack from the front of the stage to the equitpment room.  got the left house up and going that night.  Simion and gideon have been showing up helping me get alot of this done.  i thought i was going to be suck doing all th is alone.  they have been great helps.

had to get the other half of the building up before service that night so ran another set of cable for the 3way split on the right and then drilled some more.  descovered a great crawl space on that half of the building that help to conceal alot of our swiss cheese effect.  wired up the amps.. all is well so far.

some special speaker was in the chapel in the pm, and pastor jim decided to change the confession slides he’s been using for who knows how many years so i got all that squared away, then after youth we took apart the entire buidling.  i thought it was going to take days, but these guys pulled it off in a matter of two hours.  loaded all the tables, stripped the stage. 
thursday: my first offical day of vacation (yeah all that time i was still at the radio station getting as much as i could after work)  We began working on the conventional lighting, i went to red point to pick up par bulbs, and picked up my tux.  this room in the rental place was smaller than Guy’s closet.. abotu the size of a really small pantry.  my elbows kept banging the walls tring to get dressed in this cubby hole.  good thing i wasn’t feeling clostrophobic.
Setup the sound for the group, moved over the older mackie.  moved the cameras over, ran cables, ran the snake and got ready for pratice that evening.  joe cancelled main pratice and got the group together to pratice for our wedding instead.  we got them squared away and they did an awesome job.  we were so amazed.  (insert video of pratice) Guy even got some footage.. Oh.. and you have to see this (insert video of wall falling down) yeah, i decided to take down that part of the wall.. and well… you see how that ended up… and what eneded up of the wall.  Just after these few changes.. a down wall.. the tables, the moved speakers the cleaned up monitor control.. how much of a transmforation this place is already taking (picture of room thursday or take clip from videos) The guys even took down the jacobs ladder and out of the buidling into the famliy life center. 

Friday:  crunch time.. the decorators came and setup the tent, the red carpet, the round tables. 
moved over my home pc, the encoder from the office, got the streaming setup from Akamai.  got an audio feed in to the video control, setup the VTRs, picked up the rear projection screens.  Oh this was fun.  I took down that wall so i could put a rear projection screen on both ends of the buidling.  that alone was already looking way cool.. but it just wasn’t creating the effect and size i wanted.. so we brought the jacobs ladder BACK through the carpet and tent and speed bump (which claimed the life of a cart)  a trip to lowes and some chain later, we hung the screens from the primary electric.  then used the new platforms as a staging areas for the projectors, fliped them to invert, and vola.. it was perfect.  simion then tweaked and tweaked.. and then john said “that’s good”  Put the slate on one vtr in a loop, then made the first edition of the final dvd.  ran through that and immedialy found many data errors and lost frames,  on 2nd edition this time burned much slower, ran perfect, but… the one of the videos kept getting chopped off and it was mine! so we had the rehearsal with everyone.  Romeo and nancy brought the kids, paula brought the boys, and sandy and tom were there.  now reality is starting to sink in when i read my vows to patti for the first time.  they were all wrong.  i mean, the meaning was there, but i wasn’t what i was trying to say.  it was more of what i wanted to sound good.  so i made a note to myself to work on them.  patti read hers to me again.  she can’t get through them without crying.  and i see her cry and i start crying.  we’re patheic i know.  so we go through all the wedding stuff and then meet everyone next door and went through the mechanics of it all.  mic placement, tuning, AFS (automatic feedback supression)  all that cool stuff.  we even played my video for paula so she would know what she’s going to intro.  we played and AGAIN it CUT OFF! .. ok.. rerender.  3rd edition, burned.. slowly, and then played.. AGAIN it cut off.. so i’m looking at the source time line and come to find out.. I never finshed my own video.  Mind you it’s like 2AM on friday the day before.. i didn’t have TIME to be doing this.. so i took out the Canon XL2 in front of the music set, and just hit record.  in one take i layed down a track of what was missing.. more rambeling but i don’t care.. i needed this finished.  ok so that’s over.. i comipiled the videos that needed compiling and went to bed.  Guy showed up at church about this time and made sure i went to get SOME rest before the day of my own wedding. 

got up early for angel food, was able to load up a few small church at 6am.  im in a daze.. toally focused on what i needed to finish next door.  i even snuck away to being the build process for the 4th edition dvd.  met patti, got my “Groom” shirt she had on her “bride” shirt.  and i got to work back at angel food.  around 8 or 9 i realized she went to the office and never came back.. so i went over and she’s about in tears throwing a fit unable to get the program printed.  (waht.. the program wasn’t printed alreadY, the wedding in in a matter of hOURS!)  ok.. i see what her problem is with what she’s trying todo.  it’s my fault mostly for having her make that on publisher and print it on a single sided printer.  so in my best calm voice possible i had her go home.. email me the final publisher file while i went to have a master printed on a duplex printer.  After i had one duplex master any copy zone or kinkos could take it and just run the copies without any problem.  also if i had given her a duplex printer she could have seen much easier that there wasn’t not an even amount of pages for a booklet printing.  again… that was my fault.. but if this was the worse catosp.. what ever.. you know what i mean, if this was the worst problem we were going to have.. great.. we got the one problem of the event taken care of.  finish off angel food, back to the youth building and tested the final dvd..looks fine.. wait.. james’s video didn’t get the cutoff edited right.. forget it. i’m just going to have to cue the VTR operator to kill it before that part airs. nothing bad.. just not the look i was trying to portray.  did some last minute connections.. got everything as perfect as i could manage.  the decorators put the chair covers, rene came and finsihed the tables.. and the skirting.. it was amazing.  Did NOT look at all like the same youth building.  Remember that wedding years ago that made that place not look like itself? yeah well that was the effect i wanted.. and i think i pulled it off.  ok.. shut up john. you can’t take all the credit for that .. the media boys each pulled it off.  I learned a whole new apperication for these guys. 

(picture from colection 2) Simion, Gideion, Jonahthon.. you three keept me sane.  You never compalined, you just did it.  you guys read my mind just as i was thinking things, you saw my vision, you were just as excited about al this as i was… and you ran with it.  I own the three of you the success of this program.  Joel, Rico, Carlos (?) you guys were the muscle behind this entire thing.  Everyone knows i could not have moved around everything that got moved.  You guys worked like a fine tuned machine to make sure everything was in place and where it needed to be.  Rico even lifted the entire jacobs ladder all by himself.  Guy, you were the voice in my head when everything else in my head was to loud to hear.  You reminded me of what i needed to do, when i needed to do it and even remined me to sleep.  Your help was invaluable.  Even getting my clothes for the actuall event. I guess patti woudldn’t appreicate me getting married in my shorts and hawaian shirt.    I have been overwhelmed by the love, support and geneority that all of you guys have shown me during all this preperation.  I feel a deeper respect and admiration for your gifts and tallents and i owe the success of this wedding to you. 

Saturday day of
4:00 Ok.. finished the tech script, need to finish my vows.  this is all happening.  like now.. and to me!  It’s not just another program.  this is me marrying the woman i love. 


I was totally blow away by the outpouring of love and support shown for us this past week and last night.  All the media boys were outstanding.  There help was invaluable, there tallents shined like pros and there love like the kind hearted people that they are. 

I thougth we would have a few empty seats but i was suprised when it was standing room only.  i was so touched to see all the friends, family, and new family there.  I can’t begin to thank all of you enough for your particpiation.

We are at church this morning making sure things get kicked off ok.. then we are on our way to New York City.  I’m looking forward to the rest and getting to see Jimmy and Carla.  It’s going to be so cool.